Hey daddy, I missed you this year. Mom was nice enough to let me have you all to myself tonight.
Seriously, why do you think it’s ok to attach your incest fantasies to a picture of someone else’s body?
By all means write out text posts till your heart’s content, maybe draw a picture if you feel so inclined. Or if you really need photographic accompaniment, hire a model who is happy to be associated with your creative fiction.
But hijacking someone else’s work, especially something as sensitive and personal as a nude, to portray an illegal sexual act and script it from their perspective, as if it was their own words, is beyond unacceptable.
These are NOT the thought’s of ‘men’, these are the thoughts of YOU.
And you should learn to express them responsibly!
What pisses you off about Hollywood right now? (x)
short skirt long jacket // cake
i want a girl with uninterrupted prosperity
who uses a machete to cut through red tape
with fingernails that shine like justice
and a voice that is dark like tinted glass
i love it when people misspell bawling and say that they’re “balling their eyes out” like ball so hard my motherfuckin eyes came out
we’ve all got that weird pretty big secret that we don’t really hide but like we don’t flaunt it like “My brother died of cancer” or “I’m gay” or “I tried to kill myself last year” or anything really and when you find out somebody’s big plot twist you know you’re in this friendship for the long run
I think you’re cute
cute as in I wanna hear what you sound like while experiencing an orgasm
burned my hand curling my hair today
The past does not have to be your prison. You have a voice in your destiny. You have a say in your life. You have a choice in the path you take. —Max Lucado
Purple Armour Clothing Company.
Shot by jenistevenson.
What you think of yourself is much more important than what other people think of you. —Marcus Annaeus Seneca
I think one thing you can do to help your friends who are depressed is to reach out to them not in the spirit of helping, but in the spirit of liking them and wanting their company. “I’m here to help if you ever need me” is good to know, but hard to act on, especially when you’re in a dark place. Specific, ongoing, pleasure-based invitations are much easier to absorb. “I’m here. Let’s go to the movies. Or stay in and order takeout and watch some dumb TV.” “I’m having a party, it would be really great if you could come for a little while.” Ask them for help with things you know they are good at and like doing, so there is reciprocity and a way for them to contribute. “Will you come over Sunday and help me clear my closet of unfashionable and unflattering items? I trust your eye.” “Will you read this story I wrote and help me fix the dialogue?” “Want to make dinner together? You chop, I’ll assemble.” “I am going glasses shopping and I need another set of eyes.” Remind yourself why you like this person, and in the process, remind them that they are likable and worth your time and interest.
Talk to the parts of the person that aren’t being eaten by the depression. Make it as easy as possible to make and keep plans, if you have the emotional resources to be the initiator and to meet your friends a little more than halfway. If the person turns down a bunch of invitations in a row because (presumably) they don’t have the energy to be social, respect their autonomy by giving it a month or two and then try again. Keep the invitations simple; “Any chance we could have breakfast Saturday?” > “ARE YOU AVOIDING ME BECAUSE YOU’RE DEPRESSED OR BECAUSE YOU HATE ME I AM ONLY TRYING TO HELP YOU.” “I miss you and I want to see you” > “I’m worried about you.” A depressed person is going to have a shame spiral about how their shame is making them avoid you and how that’s giving them more shame, which is making them avoid you no matter what you do. No need for you to call attention to it. Just keep asking. “I want to see you” “Let’s do this thing.” “If you are feeling low, I understand, and I don’t want to impose on you, but I miss your face. Please come have coffee with me.” “Apology accepted. ApologIES accepted. So. Gelato and Outlander?” —
#613: How do I reach out to my friends who have depression? | Captain Awkward
P.S. A lot of people with depression and other mental illnesses have trouble making decisions or choosing from a bunch of different options. “Wanna get dinner at that pizza place on Tuesday night?” is a LOT easier to answer than “So wanna hang out sometime? What do you want to do?”
Tony Ward F/W 2014 + Shades of blue